“It is better to dwell in a corner of the housetop, than with a brawling woman in a wide house…It is better to dwell in the wilderness, than with a contentious and an angry woman.” (Proverbs 21:9, 19)
Solomon, one of King David’s sons, wrote the book of Proverbs. He was known for wisdom. However, when it came to marriage, Solomon’s wisdom was a little lacking—he had 700 wives. Although multiple marriages were accepted in the culture back then, they weren’t biblical or very smart. The Bible clearly states, “…let every man have his own wife [singular], and let every woman have her own husband [singular].” (1 Corinthians 7:2)
Currently, polygamy is illegal in the U.S. That law may change, too, since Justices Breyer, Ginsburg, Kagan, Kennedy, and Sotomayor threw out God’s standard for marriage with the same-sex marriage decision. Any approach to marriage outside of God’s way is an invitation to trouble—His way of marriage is one man and one woman. Problems happen when people don’t do things God’s way.
With his multiple marriages—even though they weren’t God’s will—it can be said that Solomon knew more about marriage and domestic trouble than most men. How could he not with seven hundred wives? These two verses are about marriage. They both talk about what to do when your wife is in a bad mood and wants to fight. They both give the same piece of advice: VACATE.
Most of the time, fights don’t start with blows; they start with words. Say two guys are arguing. They may end up fighting. First, they exchange words. Then they may exchange blows. When a woman is contentious and wants to fight, she usually starts with words, too. You may have learned on the job that in a domestic fight a woman’s favorite weapon is often her mouth. She is usually smaller and weaker than the man, but she knows how to hurt him with words. When a woman starts to use her mouth as a weapon, it’s time for the man to take a walk and cool off—that’s Bible.
Our scripture also says that if the woman wants to fight, it’s time for the man to take a walk, not for him to make the woman take a walk. Did you ever get a call to a domestic fight to find out that it’s just an argument? Then after you’ve heard both sides, decide that they should part for a little while, and tell him to take a walk, only to hear him whine, “Why do I have to go? Why can’t she go?” If you ever get a call like that, you could say this to him, “Because you’re the man, and Proverbs 21:9 says that the man should be the one who takes a walk.”
I Peter 3:7 tells husbands to be “giving honour unto the wife, as unto the weaker vessel.” Because women are generally smaller and weaker, men are to treat them with respect. That’s why men should open doors for ladies (how often do you see that?) and why boys don’t hit girls. Nowadays, though, many men don’t respect God or His Word, so they don’t respect women. They don’t respect them enough to marry them, and they don’t respect them enough not to assault them. How often do you get calls of “a female assaulted by her child’s father?” Find out why he hit her. See if it wasn’t because of something she said. Marriage is an institution that God ordained, and it should be done God’s way.
God’s Word is so wonderful and enlightening. Best of all, it tells us how to be sure of heaven when we die. If you want to see that, please click “How do I go to Heaven?” on the sidebar to the right.
Brian Miller 7/22/2015
Cleveland Baptist Church | 4431 Tiedeman Road | Brooklyn, Ohio 44144 | 216-671-2822
“Seek ye out of the book of the LORD, and read.” (Isaiah 34:16)
One reason police work is so interesting is because it deals with real people in real situations. Some of them are tragic, some dramatic, some funny, some dangerous, and some bizarre, but they’re all real. The Bible is about real life, too. God inspired His Word through real people who lived real lives and had real problems. One reason God gave us His Word is to give us practical wisdom to deal with real life.
Psalm 119:105 says, “Thy word is a lamp unto my feet, and a light unto my path.” God gave us the Bible—“the book of the Lord”—to be the light for our life. When you’re on duty, you should always have a flashlight, even if you work the day shift. You may be called to a break-in and have to check the basement. If you don’t have a flashlight and the power doesn’t work, you could miss a suspect hiding there. In the same way, we need spiritual light for guidance in our lives, which is why God inspired the Bible. Psalm 119:130 says, “The entrance of thy words giveth light; it giveth understanding unto the simple.”
The Bible doesn’t tell us everything there is to know about God. There is no way that all the information about God could be compiled into one volume! In fact, John 21:25 says, “And there are also many other things which Jesus did, the which, if they should be written every one, I suppose that even the world itself could not contain the books that should be written. Amen.”
The Bible does tell us, however, everything we need to know about God. In fact, everything that we need to know about God can be found between Genesis 1:1, “In the beginning God created the heaven and the earth.” and Revelation 22:21, “The grace of our Lord Jesus Christ be with you all. Amen.”
Is that statement hard to believe? You may be skeptical, which isn’t necessarily bad. Cops often need to be skeptical, because they often deal with people who can’t be trusted. When it comes to the Bible, it isn’t wrong to be a skeptic, as long as you’re honest. An honest skeptic says, “I don’t believe it. I need to check it out for myself.” A dishonest skeptic, on the other hand, says, “I don’t believe it, and I don’t want to hear about it.” An honest skeptic is willing to look at the evidence—a dishonest skeptic isn’t.
Some people are dishonest skeptics when it comes to the Bible. They may not believe that God exists or that He inspired people to write the Bible. They can’t prove otherwise, but they simply reject the idea that the Bible is God’s Word without even giving it an honest look. That’s no way to handle evidence. As a cop, you know not to ignore a possible piece of evidence. It could be the very piece that makes a case.
So, how do you look at the evidence about God’s Word? Do what our verse says: “Seek ye out of the book of the LORD, and read.” If you’re seeking truth, you’ll find it. Jesus said, “seek, and ye shall find.” (Matthew 7:7). God speaks to people’s hearts through “the voice of his word.” (Psalm 103:20).
You may already know Christ as Saviour. Still, when you read the Bible, don’t just read because “that’s what Christians are supposed to do.” Read it like you’re seeking something from God. If you need help with a problem, “Seek ye out of the book of the LORD, and read.” If you need encouragement, “Seek ye out of the book of the LORD, and read.” If you need direction, “Seek ye out of the book of the LORD, and read.” Whatever your area of need, “Seek ye out of the book of the LORD, and read.”
Whether you’re skeptical and want to find the truth, or you’ve already come to faith in Christ, it will amaze you how God speaks to the hearts of honest seekers. The most important information that God gives us from His Word is how to have our sins forgiven and go to heaven. To see that, please click “How do I go to Heaven?” on the sidebar to the right.
Brian Miller 7/9/2015
Cleveland Baptist Church 4431 Tiedeman Road, Brooklyn, Ohio 44144 216/671-2822
“And when king David came to Bahurim, behold, thence came out a man of the family of the house of Saul, whose name was Shimei, the son of Gera: he came forth, and cursed still as he came. And he cast stones at David…And thus said Shimei when he cursed, Come out, come out, thou bloody man, and thou man of Belial: The LORD hath returned upon thee all the blood of the house of Saul,…and, behold, thou are taken in thy mischief, because thou art a bloody man.” (2 Samuel 16:5-8)
At the time of this passage, David’s rebellious son, Absalom, had taken over the kingdom, and David was on the run. He and his group of loyal followers were fleeing when a man named, Shimei, started throwing stones at David and cursing him. Shimei is of the house of Saul, Israel’s first king. He obviously hated the fact that Saul’s house no longer ruled Israel. In truth, though, Saul’s downfall was his own fault—that was common knowledge. Shimei, though, didn’t seem to care about the truth. As far as he was concerned, Saul was right, and David was wrong. Period.
Shimei followed David and his people, cursing and throwing stones. One of David’s soldiers, Abishai, offered to “…go over…and take off his [Shimei’s] head.” (2 Samuel 16:9), but David said no. He allowed Shimei to continue cursing and throwing stones.
Eventually, Absalom was killed and his revolt fizzled. The good guys—David and his people—won, and David was back in power. Shimei, the stone-thrower, now had good reason to be afraid, so he went to David, “And said unto the king, Let not my lord impute iniquity unto me…” (2 Samuel 19:19). Shimei apologized profusely to David. Abishai thought Shimei should be put to death, but King David forbade it. He was glad that God had put him back into power, and he accepted the apology.
As a cop, sooner or later, you will likely have a “Shimei” on the sidelines of a police incident. Like Shimei, he doesn’t care about the facts of what happened. He just can’t stand the police, and he’ll use the opportunity to call you vile names. He knows he’s doing wrong, but he likes “dogging out” the police in public because he knows he can get away with it. He knows that the police have to show restraint, and he has a First Amendment right, up to a point, to say what he wants. You may not be angry enough to want to “take off his head,” but you know that, by law, he’s provoking disorder and should be arrested. Still, if he fights and you have to use force, you may end up as the lead story on an evening news broadcast, and it won’t look pretty. So, sometimes you have to “eat dirt” on this job, which is never fun.
Although the “Shimei” on the sidelines may think he’s getting away with something, in the big picture, he’s not. People have a way of reaping what they sow. Galatians 6:7 says, “Be not deceived; God is not mocked: for whatsoever a man soweth, that shall he also reap.” You may never see how your “Shimei’s” wrongdoing will crash down on his head, but the Bible assures us that somehow, someway, it will.
On the other hand, you may see it. You may arrest someone one day, then suddenly recognize him and watch his face drop when you ask, “Aren’t you the guy who dogged us out at the crime scene last week?” It’s fun when things like that happen. He may then mumble an apology when he sees that “what goes around comes around.” If he does, whether or not he really means it, you’ll probably do what David did: accept it and fluff the matter off. After all, you’re the good guy. That’s what the good guys do.
Even good guys need to receive Jesus as Saviour to get to heaven, though. If you want to see how to know for sure from the Bible that you’ll get to heaven? Then please click “How do I go to Heaven?” on the sidebar to the right.
Brian Miller 6/23/2015
Cleveland Baptist Church 4431 Tiedeman Road, Brooklyn, Ohio 44144 216/671-2822